Mar 13

Go To Bed Angry – You Need The Rest

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Hello Friends and Happy Thankful Thursday

If you’re married, I’m sure you’ve heard, “never go to bed angry”, but I disagree, sometimes I think you should go to bed angry – you need the rest. Don't go to bed angry

Yes, communication is important in a marriage but there are times when you don’t want to talk you just want to go to sleep. Who really wants to stay up late talking, arguing or trying to compromise, go to sleep, you need your rest, unless of course, it’s a life and death situation.

I met my husband at the age of 28, he was 32, we had both graduated from Delaware State College and each had our share of relationships.  We’d disagree on certain things because we were not raised by the same people in the same house, city or state, so having different upbringings made us think differently. Getting married and combining two lifestyles can be rough but that doesn’t mean we don’t love each other and can’t work together.


In the beginning our biggest arguments occurred after the death of my sister; giving birth to our oldest, a 3 month preemie who weighed 2 1/2 lbs and then moving my grandmother into the home, all of this was before our 2nd Wedding Anniversary.

We would argue, or he would get moody, I call it male PMS, (MMS) and we wouldn’t talk to each other for days. We’d go to bed angry and I’d sleep like a baby because I needed the rest and having him stay on his side of the bed and me on mine made for uninterrupted sleep.

sleep on your side

plot his death There were many times that I wanted to kill him and I’d lay in bed thinking of ways to do it and how to hide the body without getting caught.  The fear of going to prison always stopped me, I knew my sons would rat me out once they found out that their daddy was buried in the backyard under the tomato plants!

Once hubby finishes his MMS cycle, after a couple of days of complete silence, I’ll walk by him and he’ll grab me for a kiss.  Later on that night it’s on and popping and I’m fine with that because am thankful for having those few nights of rejuvenating rest. on and poppin

Going to bed angry isn’t the end all, if you can’t agree or compromise just go to bed angry, you need the rest and hopefully in the morning you’ll feel better.

This works for us, but it may not for you, so if you rather stay up all night to talk and argue that’s fine, but for me, I go to bed angry because I need the rest!

BTW, we have been married for 23 years and for that I am thankful!

Have you ever gone to bed angry at your significant other?

I am also thankful for my family, you my bloggy friends and of course my faith, how about you, what are you thankful for this week?

Stay Blessed ~ No Stress in 2014!




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  1. P.S. I Love Soap Co.

    My hubby and I may not make up but we have to say we Love each other and give each other a kiss or WE both don’t sleep…….

    1. DelBlogger

      Good for you, me…I’m out like a light. Happy Thankful Thursday.

  2. imagesbytdashfield

    Sometimes I can sleep angry and other times it really messes up my sleep. Good post.

    1. DelBlogger

      Yes, in those situations, an extra glass of wine helps! Happy Thankful Thursday.

  3. livingmommywood

    Great share, nice attitude 😉

    1. DelBlogger

      Thank you my dear, I love my husband but there have been many of times that I wanted to strangle him! Happy Thankful Thursday.

  4. Louida (@EarningFreeCash)

    I’ve gone to bed angry and it gives us a chance to cool off before we talk.

    1. DelBlogger

      Yes, we all need to little break and it doesn’t mean you love each other any less. Have a thankful Thursday.

  5. Ticka

    I’m so glad that you wrote this. I’ve been married for 13 years, and sometimes sleep is what we both need to look at the issue with fresh eyes the next day. It doesn’t mean that we love each other any less, or aren’t vested in our relationship. It simply means that we need some sleep. People put so much stock into not going to bed angry. Chile, let me tell you…! That glance in the next day or two along with the slight grab of your hand lets you know that it’s all good! And yes, that it will be on and poppin!! LOL!!

    1. DelBlogger

      AMEN!!!! I knew we were on the same wave length when you responded in #WhitneyNicJames post. Happy Thankful Thursday!

  6. Kurves E Zine

    You are so right my Sista!! Both of you were not born in the same house of the same parents and there will always be disagreements. Going to bed angry for one night never hurt nobody, but the make-up sex is the BEST!!

    1. DelBlogger

      oh yes!

  7. Manhattan Image and Style

    What a great post sweetie! I always make it a point to go to bed in peace with everyone. 🙂

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    1. DelBlogger

      Yes, that’s my goal as well but sometimes he can make me so mad – very rarely though. Enjoy the weekend.

  8. Me And My Mini Me

    Haha i love this. I’m not married so I don’t have this problem but this is a terrific post for those who are. I agree with you, sometimes just go to bed and discuss it in the morning when you’ve both cooled down.

    1. DelBlogger

      Yes, if it’s a true partnership you will both be able to think clearer and more rationale after a good night’s sleep. Enjoy the weekend!

  9. Anny

    I totally agree. We’ve been married 34 years. Sometimes you just need a good night’s sleep. Things don’t seem quite so major in the morning.

    1. DelBlogger

      So true and congratulations ` 34 years, that is awesome! Have a terrific weekend.

  10. Sheila

    I’ve only been married 2 yrs. and 6 mo. and while this isn’t a very long time I can honestly say that I have gone to bed mad or upset, and to be honest this didn’t work for my husband and I at all. I mean I just didn’t sleep well, and neither did he. So my husband asked me to make a vow with him. This vow was that we would always pray with one another before going to bed, and well for us this works. Now I’m not saying that all of our issues get resolved by the end of the prayer, but what I am saying is this. That for us praying together works better, and it makes for a great nights sleep, and an even better morning.

    1. DelBlogger

      No, in the beginning it didn’t work for us either…but as the years go on and you age, sleep is more welcomed than arguing – lol. Thank for stopping by and commenting.

  11. cafemochareflections

    I agree with you, a good nights sleep always gives the argument a different perspective and cooler heads. I didn’t want to kill him, just hit him with something so he would agree with me!

    1. DelBlogger

      So true! But what would we do without them?

  12. cole

    See, I cannot sleep in the middle of a fight. The only way I’m going to come anything close to sleep is with closure. My anxiety won’t let me. I certainly can’t sleep in the SAME bed with someone while fighting because I don’t understand people who CAN go to sleep during an argument.

    Of course, closure isn’t created by arguing. It’s brought by understanding, compromise, etc. So you shouldn’t stay up to argue. If all you’re doing it arguing, you’re heading to failure anyway.

    1. DelBlogger

      Yes, it’s best to work it out, but I am too old to stay up past midnight – so it’s off to la-la land until the next day or so. Thank you for commenting.

  13. christenwypy

    This is such good advice!

    1. DelBlogger

      Thank you, glad you enjoyed it.

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