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These Three Words

Have you ever listened to the words in the song, These Three Words by Stevie Wonder?

After my sister died the words in this song became more meaningful, and it was played during my grandmother’s Memorial Service.  When they were alive we never left each other or ended a conversation without a saying these three words – I LOVE YOU.

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We have an elderly neighbor who has been a widow for over 20 years, she no longer drives so each morning she is standing in her garage waiting for her ride, it’s usually her daughter.  I leave for work, normally late and always in a hurry so when I see her I just wave quickly and continue driving.  This morning looking down the street I could see her standing in her garage waiting for her ride, and once again I am running late this time by more than 20 minutes.  As I drove closer for some strange reason I decided to slow down, stop and ask her how she was feeling.  Watching her slowly walk down the driveway there was such sadness in her eyes, I immediately got out of the car to greet her.

Her only child, her one daughter went to sleep and never woke up…she wasn’t ill…no medical issues…in her 50’s…just went to sleep and never woke up.  Tears streaming down both our faces, hugging tightly, she whispered in my ear, “I just wish I was there to tell her I Love You”

I pray never to know the pain of losing a child but the loss of any loved one leaves a hole in your heart…pick up the phone today and say These Three Words.

love you


Mother's Day Will Be Bittersweet

REPOSTING FROM 2012

Mother’s Day will be bittersweet

  • today at 50, I’ve been a mother for almost 20 years
  • my grandmother was 50 when I was born, she took me & my sis under her wing at the age of 57 and lived to be 98
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • the parent of a 3 month preemie weighed a mere 2.5 lbs, not sure if he would live or die
  • my God is Awesome
  • i look in the mirror and see my mother
  • bore but did not raise me
  • died before I really got to know her
  • feared I would have to care for her in her old age
  • grandmother said in order to live a long life you have to treat everybody right and pray
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • not a friend but a fierce protector and provider
  • mother never saw her grandsons
  • a mother of 2 black males – RIP Trayvon
  • in the store – keep your hands out of your pockets or they think you are stealing
  • don’t lower your eyes
  • know your history – never forget where you came from
  • work hard
  • no fear
  • believe and achieve
  • no drinking drugs or wild and crazy women
  • pray
  • bless your food
  • be grateful
  • study hard
  • eat your food
  • don’t eat too much candy
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • don’t curse, fight, drink or do drugs
  • wash and dry your clothes, sew cook and clean – I am raising some woman’s husband
  • slow down you are driving too fast
  • look in your rear view mirror
  • keep your eyes straight ahead
  • at 98 I held her hand as she transitioned, my guardian angel, my protector, teacher, minister and enforcer
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • you got an “F”!
  • stop crying
  • open up
  • you’ll feel better
  • didn’t i tell you
  • now why did you do that?
  • wait for your brother
  • are you listening to me?
  • what did you say!
  • I love you
  • here, try this
  • be nice
  • save your money
  • get a job
  • go outside and play
  • you have to work hard
  • leave him alone
  • say cheese
  • come here
  • sit down
  • are you crazy
  • what did you do?
  • buried my father
  • never knew my paternal grandparents
  • i had a brother
  • my lil sis is gone
  • i’ll never be an aunt
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • don’t spit that out
  • i said,let’s go
  • stop it
  • Gloria was killed
  • do your homework
  • turn off that tv
  • dinner!
  • have a good day
  • God bless you
  • how was school today?
  • change your clothes
  • clean your room
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • get up!
  • make your bed
  • breakfast!
  • take out the trash
  • stop it!
  • working hard until he graduates from college
  • remembering the fear of his first day on the bus, bigger fear, first day driving alone
  • emergency room visits
  • months and months in the hospital
  • surgeries, feeding tubes, iv’s, central lines, rsv, nicu, picu
  • what did i do to deserve this
  • God why?
  • teach me how to swim
  • can’t breast feed
  • crying all the time
  • will this ever end?
  • fell off the bike
  • pregnant again…fear
  • water broke…uh oh
  • never got a maternity leave
  • slow down
  • barium swallows, mri’s
  • mcdonald’s ball pit
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • pediasure, pedylyte, nebulizer, syringe, pulse ox, nurses
  • pick that up
  • put that back
  • don’t play with that
  • leave it alone
  • boy don’t make me come and get you
  • i’m an orphan-no mother
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • ieps, department of disabilities, nurses and kids, special ed classes, mainstreaming
  • go sit down!
  • come here
  • where you goin?
  • i’ll put the ashes in the coffin with mama
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet

    My mother in high school

    My grandmother~mother~father~friend

    My sister ~ RIP


Mother’s Day Will Be Bittersweet

REPOSTING FROM 2012

Mother’s Day will be bittersweet

  • today at 50, I’ve been a mother for almost 20 years
  • my grandmother was 50 when I was born, she took me & my sis under her wing at the age of 57 and lived to be 98
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • the parent of a 3 month preemie weighed a mere 2.5 lbs, not sure if he would live or die
  • my God is Awesome
  • i look in the mirror and see my mother
  • bore but did not raise me
  • died before I really got to know her
  • feared I would have to care for her in her old age
  • grandmother said in order to live a long life you have to treat everybody right and pray
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • not a friend but a fierce protector and provider
  • mother never saw her grandsons
  • a mother of 2 black males – RIP Trayvon
  • in the store – keep your hands out of your pockets or they think you are stealing
  • don’t lower your eyes
  • know your history – never forget where you came from
  • work hard
  • no fear
  • believe and achieve
  • no drinking drugs or wild and crazy women
  • pray
  • bless your food
  • be grateful
  • study hard
  • eat your food
  • don’t eat too much candy
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • don’t curse, fight, drink or do drugs
  • wash and dry your clothes, sew cook and clean – I am raising some woman’s husband
  • slow down you are driving too fast
  • look in your rear view mirror
  • keep your eyes straight ahead
  • at 98 I held her hand as she transitioned, my guardian angel, my protector, teacher, minister and enforcer
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • you got an “F”!
  • stop crying
  • open up
  • you’ll feel better
  • didn’t i tell you
  • now why did you do that?
  • wait for your brother
  • are you listening to me?
  • what did you say!
  • I love you
  • here, try this
  • be nice
  • save your money
  • get a job
  • go outside and play
  • you have to work hard
  • leave him alone
  • say cheese
  • come here
  • sit down
  • are you crazy
  • what did you do?
  • buried my father
  • never knew my paternal grandparents
  • i had a brother
  • my lil sis is gone
  • i’ll never be an aunt
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • don’t spit that out
  • i said,let’s go
  • stop it
  • Gloria was killed
  • do your homework
  • turn off that tv
  • dinner!
  • have a good day
  • God bless you
  • how was school today?
  • change your clothes
  • clean your room
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • get up!
  • make your bed
  • breakfast!
  • take out the trash
  • stop it!
  • working hard until he graduates from college
  • remembering the fear of his first day on the bus, bigger fear, first day driving alone
  • emergency room visits
  • months and months in the hospital
  • surgeries, feeding tubes, iv’s, central lines, rsv, nicu, picu
  • what did i do to deserve this
  • God why?
  • teach me how to swim
  • can’t breast feed
  • crying all the time
  • will this ever end?
  • fell off the bike
  • pregnant again…fear
  • water broke…uh oh
  • never got a maternity leave
  • slow down
  • barium swallows, mri’s
  • mcdonald’s ball pit
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • pediasure, pedylyte, nebulizer, syringe, pulse ox, nurses
  • pick that up
  • put that back
  • don’t play with that
  • leave it alone
  • boy don’t make me come and get you
  • i’m an orphan-no mother
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet
  • ieps, department of disabilities, nurses and kids, special ed classes, mainstreaming
  • go sit down!
  • come here
  • where you goin?
  • i’ll put the ashes in the coffin with mama
  • Mother’s Day will be bittersweet

    My mother in high school

    My grandmother~mother~father~friend

    My sister ~ RIP