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Go To Bed Angry – You Need The Rest

Hello Friends and Happy Thankful Thursday

If you’re married, I’m sure you’ve heard, “never go to bed angry”, but I disagree, sometimes I think you should go to bed angry – you need the rest. Don't go to bed angry

Yes, communication is important in a marriage but there are times when you don’t want to talk you just want to go to sleep. Who really wants to stay up late talking, arguing or trying to compromise, go to sleep, you need your rest, unless of course, it’s a life and death situation.

I met my husband at the age of 28, he was 32, we had both graduated from Delaware State College and each had our share of relationships.  We’d disagree on certain things because we were not raised by the same people in the same house, city or state, so having different upbringings made us think differently. Getting married and combining two lifestyles can be rough but that doesn’t mean we don’t love each other and can’t work together.

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In the beginning our biggest arguments occurred after the death of my sister; giving birth to our oldest, a 3 month preemie who weighed 2 1/2 lbs and then moving my grandmother into the home, all of this was before our 2nd Wedding Anniversary.

We would argue, or he would get moody, I call it male PMS, (MMS) and we wouldn’t talk to each other for days. We’d go to bed angry and I’d sleep like a baby because I needed the rest and having him stay on his side of the bed and me on mine made for uninterrupted sleep.

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plot his death There were many times that I wanted to kill him and I’d lay in bed thinking of ways to do it and how to hide the body without getting caught.  The fear of going to prison always stopped me, I knew my sons would rat me out once they found out that their daddy was buried in the backyard under the tomato plants!

Once hubby finishes his MMS cycle, after a couple of days of complete silence, I’ll walk by him and he’ll grab me for a kiss.  Later on that night it’s on and popping and I’m fine with that because am thankful for having those few nights of rejuvenating rest. on and poppin

Going to bed angry isn’t the end all, if you can’t agree or compromise just go to bed angry, you need the rest and hopefully in the morning you’ll feel better.

This works for us, but it may not for you, so if you rather stay up all night to talk and argue that’s fine, but for me, I go to bed angry because I need the rest!

BTW, we have been married for 23 years and for that I am thankful!

Have you ever gone to bed angry at your significant other?

I am also thankful for my family, you my bloggy friends and of course my faith, how about you, what are you thankful for this week?

Stay Blessed ~ No Stress in 2014!

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Family and Football

Hello Friends and Happy Monday

I hope you all had a great weekend, the last one before the official start of the Holiday Season, even though the Christmas commercials, parades and decorations are already in full effect.  According to the Farmer’s Almanac, Winter does not officially begin until December 21st, but the temperatures definitely stated otherwise…it was freezing cold yesterday!  

On Saturday I drove down to Dover to meet up with my cousins from Jersey, we met at DelState for the DSU -vs- Morgan State football game.

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Unbeknownst to me, I had a 2nd cousin who is on the Morgan State Football team, Marcolm Banks is a freshman and a Fullback for the Morgan State Bears.

Fam and Football 146 His mother, my cousin Michelle and I were very close growing up but had a falling out in 1990.  It was a stupid arguement, she got upset with me because I didn’t want kids at our Wedding reception and at the time she had a young daughter.  We stopped talking and 4 years after she gave birth to her second child, Marcolm, she died from cancer.  We never made up nor did I ever apologize and to this day I still regret that…

Family is all that really matters and during this joyful time of the year it’s especially important to share the love and have good times.  I’m asking if you have an estranged family member or friend, please let it go and make up now because life is too short!

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Fam and Football As a DelState Alum – Class of ’83, it was the first time that I had sat on the opposing team’s side in the stadium, it was definitely a different view from the stands.

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Although DelState lost the game it was fun and the fans, family, and students enjoyed themselves despite the cold wintry winds!

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I told my cousin if DelState lost, I would wear his Morgan State cap in front of a Hornet’s backdrop.

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I love my cousins, thanks for inviting me to the game!

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 Have a wonderful day – Smooches!

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