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Can Cancer Cure Selfishness?

Today I had my youngest son take his father for his bi-weekly chemo treatment at the Helen Graham Cancer Center.  Why?  Because he’s selfish…no not my husband…my son.  It’s all about him…me…me…me and at the age of 19 he needs to understand that life is more about others and less about him.

Helen Graham Cancer Center

Next week he will be leaving to start his Sophomore year at Bowie State University where I hope he decides to really buckle down and take his education seriously, unlike his first semester as a Freshman.

Who do I blame for his selfishness…my husband and I.  He wasn’t born selfish but because of or in spite of the fact that our oldest, his brother is intellectually disabled perhaps we were too lenient…yes, we were too lenient in allowing him to “get away” with way too much as a child. 

Unfortunately, there is no “How To Be A Great Parent” manual, otherwise it would be on the New York Times Best Seller list.  And there definitely isn’t a manual on “How to raise two sons when the first born is disabled and you are the caregiver to an elderly grandparent, and oh by the way, your sister gets killed in a car accident and you’ve been married for less than 5 years” 

The title to that manual would be, “For Better of Worser” which you could find an excerpt of it here.

for better or worser

So how did my son do?  I don’t know…let me go ask him…be right back.

stay-tuned

Okay, this is what he said, “I was a little nervous, but it was alright”.  I guess having that iPhone growing out of his hand gave him a sense of security…whatever works.

Malik at the Cancer Center  I do hope that as the days and weeks go by, he will not only think of and care about his father’s health, but also that of others especially of those whose lives have been drastically changed by this selfish and uncaring disease!  #ihatcancer


Twenty Keys to a Happy Life

Twenty Keys to a Happy Life

KEY TO HAPPY LIFE

  1. Compliment 3 people every day
  2. Watch a sunrise
  3. Be the first to say, “hello”
  4. Live beneath your means
  5. Treat everyone as you want to be treated
  6. Never give up on anybody, miracles happen
  7. Forget the Joneses
  8. Pray not for things but for wisdom and courage
  9. Be tough-minded but tender hearted
  10. Remember someone’s name
  11. Be kinder than you have to be
  12. Don’t forget that a person’s greatest emotional need is to be appreciated
  13. Keep your promises
  14. Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don’t feel it
  15. Remember overnight success usually takes 15 years
  16. Leave everything better than you found it
  17. Remember that winners do what losers don’t want to do
  18. When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten someone’s day
  19. Don’t rain on other people’s parades
  20. Don’t waste an opportunity to tell someone that you love them


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